In celebration of my 10-year wedding anniversary, today I’m sharing a list of things I’ve learned throughout my marriage.
If you have love in your life, I hope today’s words inspire you to keep that love going strong! And if you don’t yet have a partner, let this serve as a reminder of all the awesome things in store for you!
Here are 7 ways to have the happiest of marriages…
1. Let the little things be the big things.
The little things are what sustain marriages. Spontaneous kisses. Shoulder rubs. Sweet text messages out of nowhere. Picking up his/her favorite dessert on the way home from work. Expressing your gratitude for all that he/she does. All of these are MAJOR displays of love. Even though they may seem small and require very little effort, these things truly make marriage happy and meaningful.
2. Be supportive.
This one’s easy: Don’t be a putdown artist when it comes to your spouse. (Or anyone, for that matter.) Instead, be there for them. See them through life’s ups and downs. Make them feel like anything is possible.
3. Laugh. A lot. About everything under the sun.
Be silly together. Share laughs daily. Keep things fun and light-hearted. Studies have shown that couples who can laugh together often have more fulfilling and happy relationships.
4. Embrace the art of fierce communication.
Be open with one another. Always let your partner know where you’re at in your mind and heart. This is SO essential. Don’t let a multitude of unsaid things build up inside. This will only pull you two further and further apart. Be real. Be vulnerable. Share yourself. Lay your feelings, emotions, fears, and joys all out on the table.
5. Experience new things together.
This one’s an absolute must! Contrary to what standup comedians tell us, marriage isn’t a place where everything has to become stagnant. It’s a constant adventure. It’s always evolving and growing; and if it’s not, it’s rotting and dying. Not something we want! So couples need to stay on the ball and explore new territories together. Whether it’s by traveling, trying new food, or taking up new hobbies, discovering new things together keeps the relationship fresh and exciting!
6. Know how to say “I’m sorry.”
Don’t let fights drag on for the sake of winning. Know when to apologize. (P.S. And you should mean it!)
7. Create together. And never stop.
Paint together. Write together. Grow a business together. Decorate your house together. Make babies. Design an app. Hatch a wild theme party. Whatever you do, keep creating together. Creative energy makes us thrive. It puts us in our purpose and power. When couples create together, a very deep and sacred bond springs into being; one that’s not easy to break!
Wishing you SO much love + happiness!